I can tell you you’re ugly ’cause I’m safe behind my computer screen.
On the internet I can say whatever the fuck I want. I can say I kick babies and punch nice old ladies. I can call you ugly, stupid, or vapid. I can say that your sister is hotter, or I want to fuck you dad. I can do this without giving a second thought to any of it because I am protected by my computer screen. Can’t touch me here! I’m just letters on a screen. Not a real person, not a thinking or feeling human being. And neither are the ones to who those comments and ideas directed at. Nope.
With total impunity I can say that I hate gays and love chickens. Or maybe the other way around.
Maybe I just like to cause conflict and everything I say is actually a lie. Oh wait, that can’t be right. Everything I say on the internet must be the truth. Right?
When I read this article tonight I wanted to be just as mad as she was, as many of her fans were. Then I stopped for about three seconds to think about it. I am sure the comments were pretty uncalled for. However, this is THE INTERNET. People will type things to make themselves feel better, or because they think they are being witty or funny. For Margaret Cho to lose a fan over her own replies to a couple of rude comments is pretty lame too. If you found her language offensive you were never really a fan in the first place. Ahem – side tracked –
To choose to focus on the hateful comments, instead of either ignoring it or focusing on the many other wonderful and complimentary comments. I really do understand. One criticism can scream louder than a hundred wonderful compliments. Especially more so if we grew up being at either scale of constant praise or constant abuse.
It is so easy to take the shit people say personally. And I think more so on the internet where you can anonymously spew your thoughtless comments around. When we are in a public environment or social setting many rules are observed and followed. Oh sure, there’s always some situation where someone will walk up to you and just announce how they feel about your hair style, tattoos, piercings, shoes, or even eye colour. Doesn’t happen much, in person. But now we are all safe and secluded behind our computer screens thinking that we can call each other names with impunity we are now free to say whatever comes to mind. Hurtful or helpful.
Words on a screen can hurt just as much as words spoken.
By no means am I saying don’t announce your opinions (I hope that obvious). I do think we need to learn (and teach others) how to move past the stupid. Valid opinions welcome. Thoughtless louts can form a line to the fuck off.
Do we really need an epidemic of “Oh Noes! Someone on the internet is mad at me”?